Ten Reasons Why you're the Worst with WomenBy Aidan Demolli
You suck at dating, you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom with women. It’s time to Build on that Foundation!
Woman don’t look at you, you feel invisible, unattractive, hopeless. Beautiful woman, the kind of woman you want to be with, aren’t into the average Joe. Here’s ten reasons, ten facts on why these woman aren’t finding you at all attractive and how you can correct it!
1.) You’re overweight.
Obesity I hate to tell you is completely self inflicted. That stings a little but the truth can do that. We have absolute control of our bodies, build some discipline in yours. Join a gym, stick to the diet, cut the carbs. We all know what we need to do; it’s your job to push yourself to do it!
2.) Your wardrobe
Your wardrobe still consists of clothes you wore in grade school. Style is one of the key players in building attraction, I’ll tell you she definitely noticed the ratty DC sneakers before you even said a word to her. All I can say about style is get some! Read about it, shop with a fashionable friend, hell, ask the fashionista behind the counter his/her opinion. Improving your wardrobe is a must!
This will be argued by the old and new schools of dating. It’s a touchy territory. One side pulls the man card out saying Hair is what makes us men, and while looking like a lumber jack of a man has its benefits, so does having a trim clean body. A lot will depend on the woman your attracting but I will tell you a clean trimmed body (not shaved, she wants to know that she’s not dating a prepubescent teen) will bring more eyes your direction. Trimming will also improve your physical definition, showing off the muscles you’ve been working so hard to achieve. Show them off!
4.) You’re Boring….
You don’t have any skills or hobbies or the one you have is video gaming! I can’t tell you how detrimental this is to your success with the opposite sex. It’s time to grow up and move on! Read books, travel, learn, improve, find your passions, create experiences! I stress to “find a passion”, a skill that’s yours, that has real meaning, real happiness associated with it. At the end of the day can you put your hat on that level 70 wizard that took a year of your life away to build? NEWS FLASH, No one gives a F&#K! Lose the games and take your pasty A$$ to the park to get some sun and woman in your life!
5.) You’re shy, introverted, or anxious.
Don’t get me wrong most of us are, but here’s the difference. The alphas, the men that know what they want in life, don’t allow it to handicap them. They don’t use it as a crutch to never approach a girl, to never attain what they constantly think about. Grow out of your shell, become more outgoing. It won’t happen in a day, it will take practice, hard painful practice, but the end goal is so worth it. To have control of your life and the situations you put yourself in. Stop being afraid of everything and grow a pair, take what’s rightfully yours, aka your personal happiness.
6.) You’re awkward.
This plays into you being shy and or anxious. Stop over thinking things, calm down, take a second to think about what you’re saying before you blurt out some weird shit that will have others looking at you like a space cadet! This again will take practice, and one way to improve is to observe others. Find that friend or person that controls conversations, that steers the group in directions he chooses. Take notes, and practice. Understand failure is still progress; keep grinding until you become a natural. Don’t cower at the slight discomfort of change. Don’t quit on yourself and the many potential woman waiting to please you.
7.) Your Friends suck.
The way I look at it is this, if your friends aren’t actively improving your life it’s time to find some that are. The people you hang around should be challenging, challenging to you, helping you grow, the goal of everyone being to improve! I’m not saying to drop your friends, but you know well whether there helping or hindering your progress especially in the case of woman. Find friends that test you, that make you question if you’re doing all you can do.
8.) Your social circle is nonexistent.
Like your friends your social circles are what make you. Join a sports league, grab drinks after work, look in your community for a meet up groups. Take a class, learn a new skill. Find purpose in your life and become more interesting. You’ll find that woman will start becoming more prevalent in everything you do.
9.) You’re broke
You’re broke and you’re not a student anymore. Get a job, work two or three, make some money that’s yours! You’ll appreciate everything so much more. There’s something to be said about being financially independent of others. She will see it, feel it from you. As a man we have the stigma of being the provider, own it, bring her the comfort that you are able to take care of her. Be the stability that most women crave.
10.) You’re Timid.
This will destroy any chance of your game. Women, like animals, smell your fear, they sense it immediately. As with the whole provider title we carry, we carry the role of the protector. How the hell will she feel protected if you can’t even stand up for yourself? Again this will take practice and require you taking huge steps out of your comfort zone. Start speaking with clarity, walking with purpose, demanding respect from others. Begin believing in yourself and soon others will follow suit. Start being the man you’ve dreamed of becoming. The only person stopping the change is you.
Ten reasons you suck, ten reasons to improve, ten reasons to get out of bed each morning and better yourself.
Fix one thing off this list daily. It won’t happen overnight, and it definitely won’t change without continued effort on your part. Actively challenge yourself. Expect more and more each day. Start taking control of your life’s direction. Increase your value, be the man that gets what he wants, what he knows he deserves from life. Be a Wolf in an endless field of sheep.
“A strong man cannot help a weaker unless the weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.”